Feedback Strategies: Process Praise and Mirror Feedback
Be a Mirror
This article is useful as it lists out examples as to how each of the 5 useful qualities within feedback is presented. I always find that being specific when talking to people can show you are genuinely interested in their life, but I never thought this could be utilized when giving feedback. Another important quality is to not tell them they are missing something as that does not allow growth because they did not put any effort into something they did not even think of. The most interesting point in this article was to take oneself out of the feedback. Everyone enjoys talking about themselves, but in the case where you are giving feedback it's best to not say why I think something because it takes away from their growth.
Difference Between Praise and Feedback
Praise and Personhood
Here the article says not to use positive reinforcement as this could make your child feel unworthy if they do not do what was being reinforced. In my opinion this is dumb. The very point of positive reinforcement is to reinforce that what they did was a good thing and that they should keep doing so, similar to Pavlov's famous dog experiment.
I was raised by two psychologists, and although I did get many hour long lectures when I did something wrong, I also got a large amount of positive reinforcement. Even though I got positive reinforcement, I never felt unworthy if I did not take out the trash, my mom did not love me any less, but I felt as though I was making her life less happy and more stressful. The reason I took out the trash was to put ease on my mom's life. I believe in the end it comes down to who you are as a person, which will effect how you respond to different feedback.
On the note of overpraising as opposed to process praise I agree entirely. Sometimes children need to face the harsh truth that they will fail sometimes, but when they get back up and work harder they can succeed. This was iterated well by a YouTuber I watch explained that he would race his 2 year old son around the lawn. The first race he beat him and his son began to cry. He explained to his son that he needs to get back up and try harder next time. This time when they raced he let his son win. Then the next time he beat him again, but instead his son went back to the starting line to race again, to do better.
This article is useful as it lists out examples as to how each of the 5 useful qualities within feedback is presented. I always find that being specific when talking to people can show you are genuinely interested in their life, but I never thought this could be utilized when giving feedback. Another important quality is to not tell them they are missing something as that does not allow growth because they did not put any effort into something they did not even think of. The most interesting point in this article was to take oneself out of the feedback. Everyone enjoys talking about themselves, but in the case where you are giving feedback it's best to not say why I think something because it takes away from their growth.
Difference Between Praise and Feedback
Praise and Personhood
Here the article says not to use positive reinforcement as this could make your child feel unworthy if they do not do what was being reinforced. In my opinion this is dumb. The very point of positive reinforcement is to reinforce that what they did was a good thing and that they should keep doing so, similar to Pavlov's famous dog experiment.
On the note of overpraising as opposed to process praise I agree entirely. Sometimes children need to face the harsh truth that they will fail sometimes, but when they get back up and work harder they can succeed. This was iterated well by a YouTuber I watch explained that he would race his 2 year old son around the lawn. The first race he beat him and his son began to cry. He explained to his son that he needs to get back up and try harder next time. This time when they raced he let his son win. Then the next time he beat him again, but instead his son went back to the starting line to race again, to do better.
Hey Zach, I think you are absolutely right about a person's response to feedback being dependent on who they are. No one responds to feedback in the exact same way, and some people need more positive, while others need more negative. I also agree with you that positive feedback can be very useful to help people learn. That YouTube video sounds like it holds a pretty good lesson too.
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